Fisting is an intimate sexual practice in which an entire hand - sometimes more - is inserted into the vagina or anus. What sounds like a borderline experience for some is an act of deep intimacy, trust and body awareness for others. It's not just about the "how much", but above all about the "how". Fisting is not a performance, but communication - with your own body and with the other person.

In the queer community - especially among gay men - fisting has a long history as a form of radical intimacy and sexual freedom. In a world that often stigmatizes queer sexuality, fisting stands for self-empowerment, for pleasure without norms, for love without shame.

The techniques - and why they have nothing to do with violence

There are many ways to practice fisting - no two bodies react the same. Some prefer slow stretching with lots of lubricant and patience. Others appreciate rhythmic movements as soon as the so-called "pop" is overcome. The important thing to remember is that every technique requires experience, consideration and the conscious development of trust.

Vaginal fisting and anal fisting differ not only anatomically, but also in terms of safety management. While the stretching of the vaginal entrance and the position of the cervix must be taken into account during vaginal fisting, issues such as sphincter control, depth and bowel hygiene play a decisive role during anal fisting.

Communication is everything

There should always be a detailed discussion before the first attempt: What do I want? What is taboo? What do I need to feel safe? Non-verbal signs are just as important as an honest "stop". A "safeword" can help in moments of intense stimulation to get out of the pleasure zone before boundaries are crossed.

Myths & prejudices

There are many myths surrounding fisting: that it always bleeds, that it destroys the sphincter or that it is only for "hardcore people". The reality is different: Those who practice fisting responsibly protect themselves and their partner - and can experience one of the most intense forms of sexual connection.

Fisting is not for everyone - and that's okay

Like any sexual practice, fisting is not a must. If you try it, you don't have to stick with it. If you love it, you don't have to do it all the time. And if you don't like it, you're not a prude. The important thing is: No one should have to be ashamed, neither of pleasure nor of boundaries.

Diversity of perspectives

Trans*, non-binary or intersex people can also experience fisting in their very own way - each with different conditions, feelings and needs. That is why it is important not to talk about "the one fisting", but to open up spaces for different experiences.

Fisting is therefore not a fetish that gets lost in dark clichés. It is an invitation to rediscover your own body. With respect. With trust. With an openness that is much more than just physical.