Fisting safely means knowing what's important. Fisting is an intense sexual experience - both physically and emotionally. For it to be safe and fulfilling for everyone involved, it requires more than pleasure: namely knowledge, communication, respect and responsibility. This page provides you with everything you need to practice fisting responsibly and consciously.

Preparation: The body as space

Fisting does not begin with the insertion of the hand, but with preparation. This includes:

• Physical relaxation: A warm room, time without pressure and, if necessary, a relaxing bath work wonders.

• Hygiene: Wash your hands, file your nails short and smooth, use disposable gloves if necessary. A gentle enema can also be helpful for anal fisting - but it's not a must.

• Mental attunement: Both should be present, in agreement and free from pressure of expectation. Fisting is not a competition - it's a dialog.

Communication & consensus

Before things get started, both (or all) parties involved should openly express their wishes, boundaries and expectations. Clear rules:

• What is desired? Just stretching? Depth? Only certain positions?

• What is taboo? Pain, speed, talking, certain words, certain tools?

• How do I signal a stop? A word, a sound, a hand signal?

Consensus is not just a concept - it is an ongoing process. Consent can be withdrawn at any time.

Lubricants & Tools

There is no such thing as "too much" lube when fisting - only "too little".

• Recommended: water-based or special silicone-based lubricants that do not dry out

• Tools: Disposable gloves, towels, soft pads, possibly anatomically shaped toys for training

• Finger check: No rings, sharp edges or long fingernails

Tip: The bottle should be within easy reach. Relubrication is care - not a moment of disruption.

Technology & speed

• Start slowly: one finger, then two. Circular movements. Do not force pressure.

• Observe breathing: It shows whether the other person is relaxed or tense.

• "The pop": the moment when the fist glides through the muscles - emotional, intense, but never painful.

• Accept quiet phases: Sometimes you can't go on - that's okay.

Experience, trust and patience are more important than anatomy.

Aftercare: What comes next?

After fisting is before arriving. The body and mind need space to process the experience.

• Cuddle, rest, talk - or just lie there

• Drink, shower, avoid irritants

• Emotional support during intense experiences

Especially after the first experience, you may experience a mixture of euphoria, exhaustion and confusion. Take your time.

Medical aspects

Fisting is safe with good preparation - but like any practice, it is not risk-free.

• Possible risks: Micro-injuries, mucous membrane irritation, tears if stretched too quickly

• Take symptoms seriously: Bleeding, pain, unusual body reactions

• When to see a doctor? If you have a fever, dizziness, a strong feeling of pressure or blood in your stool

Regular medical check-ups are not mistrust - they are self-care.

For the advanced & curious

If you want to delve deeper, you can find it here:

• Training instructions for anal muscle building and stretching

• Recommendations for high-quality toys & fisting-friendly lubricants

• Links to community workshops, videos & experience blogs

Language & Ethics

This page stands for:

• a non-moral, non-fetishizing language

• Empowerment instead of voyeurism

• Visibility for marginalized bodies too

Safer fisting is not just a technique, but an attitude. One that connects - with yourself and with others.

Note: This section was developed with medical input and in collaboration with experienced community actors. For individual questions or uncertainties, we recommend talking to queer-friendly medical or sex education professionals.